Post Abortion Healing



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Pregnancy Helpline
21 South Jackson St. Suite C
Janesville, WI 53548
608-755-9739
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Healing Stage 2

Clousure with Self

One of the hardest things you will face in post-abortion grieving is to forgive yourself. The reason for this is that you tend to “measure” the severity of your sin with the amount of forgiveness that you think you should be able to receive. When a sin you commit is a small one (i.e. a “little white lie”) you usually don’t have any trouble believing that God can and does forgive. These sins are usually repairable, so you feel hopeful that God forgives you completely and you no longer carry these sins upon your shoulders. But, if the sin you take part in is a big one, and can’t be undone (abortion), it is much harder to let yourself off the hook. That is why you are holding unforgiveness toward yourself. When you continue to hold unforgiveness toward yourself, your behavior will show it. Here’s what happens:

  • You will continue in self-punishing behaviors
  • You will have bouts of depression
  • You will replay guilt tapes over and over in your mind
  • You will build walls around yourself
  • You will continue to doubt God’s love for you
  • Instead of taking God at His word, you will wonder-when bad things happen- if that was God punishing you again for the abortion!
  • You will keep “paying a debt”, trying to work off your guilt by doing lots of good things to help you feel better about yourself.

What you need to understand is this:

No one can merit God’s forgiveness, or self-forgiveness–it is not something you can earn. It was earned for you by Jesus death on the cross. Think about it this way. If I had a measuring cup in my hand, just how much do you think you would have to do to fill it with good works and clean living before you would be able to say ‘the cup is filled, now I can forgive myself for my abortion?’ You have been trying to fill this measuring cup for quite some time and haven’t filled it yet, have you?

Self-forgiveness begins with coming to a personal, heart knowledge of God and of His forgiveness of you!
It’s really all one step, all taken care of at the cross, two thousand years ago. Once you have accepted God’s forgiveness, there is no second step of trying somehow to forgive yourself because it just can’t be done by anything YOU do. Once you are forgiven of God, you need to replace your unforgiveness toward yourself with the truth of God’s Word again. Nowhere does God see you as useless, a failure, unlovable, or undeserving of His love. Once you have repented and are trusting in the shed blood of His Son, God sees you as clean, forgiven, and restored in Him. Once you realize this, then it is time to walk in His mercy and grace as a child of God. He is not withholding anything from you…He loves you. The person God has planned for you to be is now emerging. Let go of unforgiveness toward yourself because that only cancels the work of the cross!

Continue to Healing Stage 3

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Healing Stage 2

Clousure with Self

One of the hardest things you will face in post-abortion grieving is to forgive yourself. The reason for this is that you tend to “measure” the severity of your sin with the amount of forgiveness that you think you should be able to receive. When a sin you commit is a small one (i.e. a “little white lie”) you usually don’t have any trouble believing that God can and does forgive. These sins are usually repairable, so you feel hopeful that God forgives you completely and you no longer carry these sins upon your shoulders. But, if the sin you take part in is a big one, and can’t be undone (abortion), it is much harder to let yourself off the hook. That is why you are holding unforgiveness toward yourself. When you continue to hold unforgiveness toward yourself, your behavior will show it. Here’s what happens:

  • You will continue in self-punishing behaviors
  • You will have bouts of depression
  • You will replay guilt tapes over and over in your mind
  • You will build walls around yourself
  • You will continue to doubt God’s love for you
  • Instead of taking God at His word, you will wonder-when bad things happen- if that was God punishing you again for the abortion!
  • You will keep “paying a debt”, trying to work off your guilt by doing lots of good things to help you feel better about yourself.

What you need to understand is this:

No one can merit God’s forgiveness, or self-forgiveness–it is not something you can earn. It was earned for you by Jesus death on the cross. Think about it this way. If I had a measuring cup in my hand, just how much do you think you would have to do to fill it with good works and clean living before you would be able to say ‘the cup is filled, now I can forgive myself for my abortion?’ You have been trying to fill this measuring cup for quite some time and haven’t filled it yet, have you?

Self-forgiveness begins with coming to a personal, heart knowledge of God and of His forgiveness of you!
It’s really all one step, all taken care of at the cross, two thousand years ago. Once you have accepted God’s forgiveness, there is no second step of trying somehow to forgive yourself because it just can’t be done by anything YOU do. Once you are forgiven of God, you need to replace your unforgiveness toward yourself with the truth of God’s Word again. Nowhere does God see you as useless, a failure, unlovable, or undeserving of His love. Once you have repented and are trusting in the shed blood of His Son, God sees you as clean, forgiven, and restored in Him. Once you realize this, then it is time to walk in His mercy and grace as a child of God. He is not withholding anything from you…He loves you. The person God has planned for you to be is now emerging. Let go of unforgiveness toward yourself because that only cancels the work of the cross!

Continue to Healing Stage 3



Post Abortion Healing



Contact Us

Pregnancy Helpline
21 South Jackson St. Suite C
Janesville, WI 53548
608-755-9739
onlinehelp@pregnancy-helpline.net