Post Abortion Healing



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Pregnancy Helpline
21 South Jackson St. Suite C
Janesville, WI 53548
608-755-9739
onlinehelp@pregnancy-helpline.net

Just the Facts

Learn about fetal development and abortion procedures and risks
Use our Decision-Making Guide to determine what you know and how you feel about your options

Post-Abortion Syndrome Affects Men, Too.
If you choose abortion or already have participated in this decision, be prepared for the fact that BOTH of you may experience what is called “Post-Abortion Syndrome.” According to many studies that have been done on this subject, you, as a man, may experience one or many of the following problems:

  • Fear of failure
  • Depression
  • Guilt/shame
  • Panic attacks
  • Sexual dysfunctions
  • Eating disorders
  • Troubling dreams/nightmares
  • Struggles in your relationship, or future relationships
  • Feelings of inadequacy
  • Alcohol, drug or other chemical dependency
  • Suicidal thoughts
  • Inability to make important decisions…fear of defeat
One More Thing…

So many couples say they just don’t want to be a parent yet and that is why they are choosing abortion. But the fact is, you are already a parent. A child has already been conceived. It is not a matter of “I don’t want to be a parent yet…” Once a child is conceived, you are a parent. You have a child. In choosing abortion, you end the life of your child. That is the choice you are considering.

This must be understood before proceeding.

At the Abortion Facility

If you both have determined, for whatever your reason, to have an abortion and actually make it to the facility, ask the facility staff these questions:

  1. What kind of abortion will she have? Will it be chemical or surgical? Ask them about the risks. It’s important that you both sit through any discussion about the abortion procedure. Most women want their boyfriends to understand what they will be going through. She is afraid to be alone with her feelings.
  2. Who is the abortionist and what are his/her credentials? Be sure to write down the name. (Oftentimes they do not want to give you the name of the doctor. This alone should tell you something!) Would you see any other doctor without knowing his/her name? No, you wouldn’t
  3. Don’t let her sign any papers that might release them from any liability if they hurt her. This prevents you from any course of action should anything happen to her as a result of the abortion.
  4. 
Check to see if the facility is clean and sanitary. Many abortion facilities are never inspected by governmental agencies. As a result, they can provide sub-standard care to their patients. If the facility doesn’t appear spotless, leave. (This is not to be taken lightly….we know of one client who said she visited four abortion clinics, none were clean, some had cameras in the front office so as to scrutinize clients, and unclean rooms were very apparent! They never did have the abortion and they didn’t like how they were treated!)
  5. 
If they offer ultrasounds, insist on being allowed to view the screen. Both of you have a right to view any medical tests that are being conducted. Maybe you are afraid to view the screen because you don’t want to view the baby. This should tell you how you really feel. Not viewing the screen does not take away the fact that a pre-born baby is present.
  6. 
Should your girlfriend/wife have any doubts, take her home. There is no rush to make this decision. Any hesitation on her part could mean significant regrets in the future. Always remind her that you are there to protect her from harm. No matter how close or distant your relationship is at this time, it is not worth an abortion especially if one or both of you are expressing doubts.
  7. Accompany her throughout the facility. Do not wait in the car until it is over. Should the facility staff seek to isolate you from your girlfriend, or from hearing any discussion on procedures and risks, be immediately suspicious and ask her to leave with you for the time being.

It is our hope that you do not opt for an abortion. Remember that abortion doesn’t erase a problem – it only adds new ones. Abortion is PERMANENT. There is no “undoing” this decision. Wait and research all your options and know that we are here to help. If you are in our area, give us a call, or stop in our Center. 

If you are only as close as the internet, email us at onlinehelp@pregnancy-helpline.net

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Just the Facts

Learn about fetal development and abortion procedures and risks
Use our Decision-Making Guide to determine what you know and how you feel about your options

Post-Abortion Syndrome Affects Men, Too.
If you choose abortion or already have participated in this decision, be prepared for the fact that BOTH of you may experience what is called “Post-Abortion Syndrome.” According to many studies that have been done on this subject, you, as a man, may experience one or many of the following problems:

  • Fear of failure
  • Depression
  • Guilt/shame
  • Panic attacks
  • Sexual dysfunctions
  • Eating disorders
  • Troubling dreams/nightmares
  • Struggles in your relationship, or future relationships
  • Feelings of inadequacy
  • Alcohol, drug or other chemical dependency
  • Suicidal thoughts
  • Inability to make important decisions…fear of defeat
One More Thing…

So many couples say they just don’t want to be a parent yet and that is why they are choosing abortion. But the fact is, you are already a parent. A child has already been conceived. It is not a matter of “I don’t want to be a parent yet…” Once a child is conceived, you are a parent. You have a child. In choosing abortion, you end the life of your child. That is the choice you are considering.

This must be understood before proceeding.

At the Abortion Facility

If you both have determined, for whatever your reason, to have an abortion and actually make it to the facility, ask the facility staff these questions:

  1. What kind of abortion will she have? Will it be chemical or surgical? Ask them about the risks. It’s important that you both sit through any discussion about the abortion procedure. Most women want their boyfriends to understand what they will be going through. She is afraid to be alone with her feelings.
  2. Who is the abortionist and what are his/her credentials? Be sure to write down the name. (Oftentimes they do not want to give you the name of the doctor. This alone should tell you something!) Would you see any other doctor without knowing his/her name? No, you wouldn’t
  3. Don’t let her sign any papers that might release them from any liability if they hurt her. This prevents you from any course of action should anything happen to her as a result of the abortion.
  4. 
Check to see if the facility is clean and sanitary. Many abortion facilities are never inspected by governmental agencies. As a result, they can provide sub-standard care to their patients. If the facility doesn’t appear spotless, leave. (This is not to be taken lightly….we know of one client who said she visited four abortion clinics, none were clean, some had cameras in the front office so as to scrutinize clients, and unclean rooms were very apparent! They never did have the abortion and they didn’t like how they were treated!)
  5. 
If they offer ultrasounds, insist on being allowed to view the screen. Both of you have a right to view any medical tests that are being conducted. Maybe you are afraid to view the screen because you don’t want to view the baby. This should tell you how you really feel. Not viewing the screen does not take away the fact that a pre-born baby is present.
  6. 
Should your girlfriend/wife have any doubts, take her home. There is no rush to make this decision. Any hesitation on her part could mean significant regrets in the future. Always remind her that you are there to protect her from harm. No matter how close or distant your relationship is at this time, it is not worth an abortion especially if one or both of you are expressing doubts.
  7. Accompany her throughout the facility. Do not wait in the car until it is over. Should the facility staff seek to isolate you from your girlfriend, or from hearing any discussion on procedures and risks, be immediately suspicious and ask her to leave with you for the time being.

It is our hope that you do not opt for an abortion. Remember that abortion doesn’t erase a problem – it only adds new ones. Abortion is PERMANENT. There is no “undoing” this decision. Wait and research all your options and know that we are here to help. If you are in our area, give us a call, or stop in our Center. 

If you are only as close as the internet, email us at onlinehelp@pregnancy-helpline.net



Post Abortion Healing



Contact Us

Pregnancy Helpline
21 South Jackson St. Suite C
Janesville, WI 53548
608-755-9739
onlinehelp@pregnancy-helpline.net